Greetings: More Than Just "Bonjour"
The Sacred "Bonjour"
Never underestimate the power of "bonjour." In France, this simple word is not optional—it's the key that unlocks every social interaction. Enter a shop without saying bonjour to the proprietor? Expect chilly service. Start a question without this greeting? You've already marked yourself as rude.
Cultural Context Box: The Philosophy of Bonjour
"Bonjour" literally means "good day," but it signifies much more. It's an acknowledgment of the other person's humanity, a sign of respect, and a social contract. By saying bonjour, you're essentially saying, "I recognize you as a person worthy of courtesy." Skipping it suggests you view others as mere functionaries.The timing matters too: - Bonjour: Used until roughly 5 or 6 PM - Bonsoir: Evening greeting, typically after 5 PM - Bonne journée/Bonne soirée: Said when departing (have a good day/evening) - Salut: Casual hi/bye among friends only
La Bise: The Cheek Kiss Decoded
Perhaps no French custom causes more anxiety for visitors than la bise. This cheek-kissing greeting varies wildly across France, and even French people sometimes get it wrong.
The Basic Mechanics: 1. Lean in, usually starting with the right cheek 2. Make light cheek contact (or air kiss near the cheek) 3. Make a subtle kissing sound 4. Repeat on the other side (number varies by region)
When to Faire la Bise: - Meeting friends and acquaintances in social settings - Greeting colleagues in some workplaces (though this is changing) - Being introduced at social gatherings - Arriving at and leaving parties
When NOT to Faire la Bise: - Professional first meetings (handshake instead) - With service providers (shopkeepers, waiters) - When someone extends a hand instead - During health concerns (COVID has changed norms)