Weddings: L'Art du Mariage
The French Wedding Timeline
French weddings often span multiple days with distinct celebrations:
Typical Structure: 1. Civil Ceremony (Required): Town hall, legal requirement 2. Religious/Secular Ceremony (Optional): Church or venue 3. Vin d'honneur: Extended cocktail reception 4. Repas de noces: Formal dinner 5. Soirée dansante: Dancing party 6. Brunch (Sometimes): Next-day gathering
Invitation Etiquette
Understanding Invitations: - Formal language expected - RSVP promptly and formally - Plus-ones not assumed - Children specified if welcome - Dress code often indicated - Registry information separate
Gift Giving
Wedding Gift Traditions: - Money increasingly common - Registry lists (liste de mariage) at specific stores - Group gifts for larger items - Envelope with card during reception - Amount varies by relationship - No gifts at ceremony
Cultural Context Box: The Wedding Registry Evolution
Traditional French wedding lists focused on household items for new couples. Modern couples often have established homes, leading to honeymoon funds or charity donations. The shift reflects changing lifestyles while maintaining gift-giving traditions.Wedding Attire
Guest Dress Codes: - Elegant but not upstaging couple - Women avoid white/ivory - Men in suits typically - Hats acceptable for women - Religious venues need modest dress - Evening wear for dinner
Ceremony Behavior
During Services: - Arrive 10-15 minutes early - Silent phones completely - Stand/sit with congregation - Photography often restricted - Throw rice/petals outside only - Congratulate after ceremony
Reception Dynamics
Vin d'Honneur: - All ceremony attendees invited - Stand and mingle format - Light appetizers and drinks - Toast to couple - Gift envelopes given here - Some guests leave after
Dinner Reception: - Assigned seating typical - Multiple courses (4-7) - Speeches between courses - Wine pairings important - Dancing starts late - Party until dawn common